God is in control and He is moving mountains.
3rd party website said it would take 96 business days to receive my birth certificate; the CA.gov website said 4 weeks.
We received them in 13 days, from the day we dropped off the request at the post office to receiving them in the mail. I am awed by God’s hand in our adoption process.
We are still plowing through adoption stuff. Since we are applying to adopt a waiting child, we have motivation to push as fast as possible. The longer it takes for us to finish our part of the process, the longer she lives in an orphanage.
Yesterday I applied for my passport. I was very happy to find a nearby USPS that accepts passport applications. Last week I called and scheduled an appointment for this Monday morning. So, yesterday, I drove over to the USPS and handed in my application, my passport photos, and a check. Hopefully soon I am going to be a world class traveler! I told my husband he wasn’t allowed to go pick up our daughter by himself…
This morning we both visited our doctor to get general health checkups and have her fill out some paperwork about our medical history. She signed off that we are “mentally and physically fit to parent.” Woohoo! One more approval has been handed in.
Tomorrow I visit a lab to get some blood drawn for a routine check. It’s been years since I’ve had blood work done. I confess that I am not looking forward to it. Hopefully it will be an easy visit. I am drinking tons of fluids in preparation. Unfortunately, no more food until after our visit tomorrow.
We’re also working on a summary of our disciplinary beliefs/techniques for various ages of children. I’m having to research a bit as I’m honestly not sure of specific discipline techniques. I know spanking is a horrible form of punishment for a child who has been abandoned or neglected. I know positive reinforcement is better than punishment. But I’m not certain about which discipline ideas are best suited for what age. It looks like I have some more reading to do!
In my preadoption reading, I found mention after mention that the longest part of the adoption process is waiting for the FBI clearance. I felt for sure that our home study was going to be held up by the FBI fingerprinting results. I was wrong!
Jeff and I made an appointment to get digitally fingerprinted today at noon. We showed up 15 minutes early and were both done before our scheduled appointment times. By the time we arrived home, we had emails stating that our FBI results were available for download. We cleared the fingerprinting check!
I wasn’t expecting anything to show up on the record but the appointment website said we’d have results in 3-5 business days. I’m absolutely positive this is not the same fingerprinting that normally takes 4-12 weeks. We’ll probably have to get an additional fingerprinting clearance done after the home study is approved. That one will take longer. But for now, we’re gathering clearances and paperwork faster than I had originally anticipated.
Now we’re just waiting to see if my birth certificate arrives faster than the predicted 96 business days…
I know I’ve been posting a lot about the adoption lately but it’s the primary focus in our lives right now! We have lots to do now so that we can sit and wait for approvals later.
Yesterday we went to Walgreens and got passport photos taken. My husband just needs a passport renewal so he was able to mail off his application. I’m applying for my first passport so my process is a bit more involved. I have to order a copy of my birth certificate in order to submit my passport application. I also need a birth certificate for our home study.
96 business days.
Yes. The wait time for my birth certificate is currently 96 business days.
I am not happy. I thought our home study would get held up waiting for our FBI clearances. We have appointments to get fingerprinted on Tuesday. Instead, our home study is probably going to be waiting for a certified copy of my birth certificate! Now I wish I had ordered one earlier.
While we hurry up and wait, I’ve continued my deep cleaning. Our kitchen is now spotless! I scrubbed everything. I cleaned out the cupboards and decluttered and reorganized. I scrubbed the fridge. And the oven. And the floor. It’s so pretty!
Is this the adoption version of nesting? I don’t have much money to spend on making our home pretty or buying things for our daughter. Right now, almost all of our money is getting deposited into the adoption fund. Once that is fully funded, then we can make the house pretty. We did set aside a bit of money to buy a cheap entertainment center, as our modem and blu-ray player and Wii are all sitting on the floor. We’re also going shopping Sunday for a cheap floor lamp for our bedroom and a trash can for the pantry. Stuff we’d been doing without but now want to have so that we can show the social worker that our home is more inviting. Little things, but I think they’ll make a big difference.
I’m guessing that April is when we’ll be able to start buying furniture and clothes and such for our daughter. Our daughter. I just love those words. 🙂
We have been finding a LOT of spiders in our house lately. I had the unfortunate experience of sorting laundry on two separate occasions and seeing a spider scurry out from our laundry pile. Yup, we are definitely in need of a closed hamper. At that moment, it was confirmed that I scream like a girl.
Yesterday, Jeff called our pest control company and told them we’re starting to see an influx of spiders. Our normally scheduled visit is in about three weeks. They said they would come out today and spray for us. Yay!
When they got here, our bug guy sprayed really well and said that we might be seeing a few more spiders since it is prime spider season here. On the way out the door, he said this visit counted as a return visit instead of a normally scheduled one. Our pest control company has a policy that if they have to return and spray a second time, the visit is free. I assumed we’d be paying in full since we have a visit coming up next month. Nope!
What a blessing. Today we started the paperchasing process of the home study and the free pest control visit freed up $80 for other things. Like passport photos. And certified birth certificates. Yup, we’re definitely chasing that paper now!
From our placement agency – “We are ok with your going ahead with your plans to adopt an older child.”
Praise the Lord! This is one of the big hurdles we’ve been working on, trying to figure out if we can get agency pre-approval to move forward with our adoption plans. Of course, we still have to get approval from our social worker and get a home study written that reflects our desire to adopt an older child.
Now we just have to finalize our decision on which social worker or home study agency to use and we can get started with our home study.
I am absolutely thrilled!!
MIL: “What are you reading right now?”
Husband: “Parenting books!”
Praise the Lord. 🙂
It seems God keeps putting reassurances in front of me that we are meant to step forward in faith and pursue adoption. Yesterday, the pastor mistyped a slide in his Powerpoint, accidentally listing Titus 2:4 as his Scripture text. He didn’t realize the mistake until someone stood up and read the text during the service.
that they admonish the young women to love their husbands,
to love their children
The congregation laughed but I smiled. The pastor could have typed Titus 1:4 or 3:4 or 4:4 or any other combination of numbers. But, he mistyped and had a text read aloud that reinforces God’s calling for my life right now.
Then I open up Bible Gateway to copy the verse from Titus and find today’s Scripture reading:
As for God, His way is perfect;
The word of the Lord is proven;
He is a shield to all who trust in Him.
Thank you, Lord! We’re stepping out in faith that this adoption is Your will for us!
For this child I prayed…
1 Samuel 1:27
My husband and I are praying over a young lady in Asia, earnestly asking God if we are to move forward with her adoption.
I know that someday soon I will be able to claim this entire verse as my own.
For this child I prayed,
and the Lord has granted me my petition which I asked of Him.
1 Samuel 1:27